By Tom T. Moore
The month of December is generally, viewed as a great month of parties, dinners with friends and reunions with families. But it can be a highly stressful time when you’re in charge of the dinner or you have to travel, or you and your family are worlds apart in lifestyles and/or beliefs.
I’m going to give you some tips and suggestions to make this time period much less stressful and a lot more pleasurable. About ten years ago, in reading spiritual articles and books, I read a suggestion to request benevolent outcomes for events in your life. I decided to try it out, and was amazed how PERFECTLY it worked for everything, from small requests such as a parking spot next to a busy restaurant or a seat on the subway to the really important situations in my business and personal life. After having made these requests between 10,000 and 15,000 times over the years, I am firmly convinced that our Guardian Angels are there to assist us in living more gentle lives. We just have to ask.
So how do you request Benevolent Outcomes from your Guardian Angel? If you are cookingfor your friends or family, consider saying, “I request a Most Benevolent Outcome that the food I prepare will be perfect for my group, and that our time spent together will be enjoyable. Thank you.” Always thank your Guardian Angel, and say it with emotion. Remember that the requests have to be benevolent for not only you, but also all those involved in the request. This is your best friend you are talking to, so be assured that you can speak directly to them and in these simple terms.
If you must travel during the holidays, there are a variety of requests you can make. You can request Benevolent Outcomes:
• That the drive to the
• airport or to the place you are going to be safe and free of traffic;
• That the check in at the airport be fast;
• That your luggage will arrive safely and on time;
• That you speed through the Security Line with no delays;
• That your plane and any connections you make be on time;
• That (if you are traveling alone) you sit next to someone interesting, or, if you need to sleep, next to someone who will not want to talk;
• That your friends or family are there on time and easy to find;
• That if you are taking part in any sport during your holiday, from touch football, to skiing, to scuba diving, you remain safe from injury.
You can request a Benevolent Outcome that your visit with your family or acquaintances be cordial and pleasant. Just say, “I ask that during the time I am at (name the location) that my experience be delightful. Thank you. This may seem like you’re asking a lot in some instances, but ASK FOR THE IMPOSSIBLE!
Under this category comes family members or people you know will be at the party or reunion with which you have had a difficult time. The reasons could include alcoholism, drug use, or you have had a difficult relationship with them in the past. I suggest saying something like, “I ask that any and all beings come to the assistance of (name) so that they remain sober and pleasant during the time I’m there, and that they receive assistance in overcoming their problem.” This is a “Living Prayer” that you can say for other people. Change the wording to fit your circumstances. Or you can say, “I request a Most Benevolent Outcome for having a pleasant relationship with (name) during the time I am with them.” Again, change the wording to fit your particular circumstances.
If you are worried about you and/or your children’s safety while in the presence of someone whom you know to be physically, mentally, or sexually abusive, then say, “I ask that my safety and that the safety of my children be guaranteed now and in the future in a way that is Benevolent to us all.” This can also be said if you are currently in a relationship where you are fearful for the same reasons.
There is what I call the “Radiant Effect” when you make these requests. Many of these requests will be benevolent for all of those around you, such as when you request a Benevolent Outcome for a pleasant time with someone who has caused everyone problems. When you request Benevolent Outcomes for yourself, it also affects others—in this case those who are at the dinner, party, or reunion with you. It makes for a much more pleasant time for everyone! These simple requests can lower your stress and make your family’s holiday much more congenial and joyful!
* Tom T. Moore is an entertainment industry CEO and speaker, who distributes motion pictures and TV programs internationally. His book, “The Gentle Way: A Self-Help Guide For Those Who Believe in Angel” gives many more suggestions for requesting Benevolent Outcomes – www.TheGentleWayBook.com.