When you fight for something, make sure the reasons you’re fighting. For example, this might be something like losing weight, but the why is because someone else wants you to. It’s not truly your fight because the why isn’t yours.
When you want to lose weight because you want to be healthier, then it’s your fight. Understand that fighting for what you want doesn’t mean that you have all the answers. It doesn’t mean you’re never going to make a mistake or that you won’t be afraid at times.
And it doesn’t mean that you have to put on a tough act to hide your vulnerability. In the fight, don’t lose sight of who you are and why you’re in it to begin with. To fight for what you want, you’re going to battle resistance and it’s going to come from within.
Especially if your life up until this point has been one of coasting along. To fight the internal resistance, you’re going to need to make sure that your reason is rock solid. If you don’t really know what you’re fighting for, you’ll quit.
You fight for what you want when you have a vision. Some people lump this in with knowing your why, but it’s two different things. A vision allows you to imagine the results of your why. It strips the limita-tions around success and allows you to be more than you ever dreamed you could be. It allows you to do more, to push harder, to gain in whatever area you have a vision.
You might have a reason, in this example, to lose weight, but a vision can make you a leader in the fitness niche. You might have a reason to overhaul your relationship, but a vision can turn you into a self-help guru, or can rekindle a fire between you and your partner.
You might have a reason to have a better career, but having a vision can turn a simple career into your dream. It can awaken your passion and pour success out in your life. But you have to remember that in order to become more, you must be more. And that starts with a fight!
Fighting for what you want means you have to trust that you’re good enough. That you can do this. You have to believe that you have what it takes to achieve what you’re fighting for – even if you don’t see that. Even if it takes weeks, months or years before you see the end results of your fight. Of course, in any fight, there’s going to be conflict. Your conflict is going to come to you like it’s tailor made.
It’ll carry your biggest weakness and look for the chance to knock you flat on your face. For example, if you’re fighting to lose weight, you can bet that someone is going to show up somehow with the biggest, diet busting meal or dessert that you can never say no to.
So now it’s crunch time. Do you devour that food like you haven’t eaten in months? Will you sit around after giving in and berate yourself for ruining your diet? Or will you put it into perspective, focus on the achievements you’ve made, shake off the food fail and move on?
Or if you’re working on bettering your relationship, you can guarantee that you’re going to end up in an argument with that person eventually. There’s nothing worse than wanting a healthy relationship with someone who knows just how to needle you. You have to decide that you’re going to keep going if that relationship is the one you want. If it’s not, then you have no business fighting for it. You’re only fooling yourself and delaying the inevitable crash.
Some people stay in a relationship because they don’t want to be alone. But you can be alone – even in a relationship. Make sure it’s worth fighting for. If not, don’t waste another day of your life. Maybe you’re fighting for your career and just when it seems you’ve made some excellent strides, you lose ground. You can’t just pack up your toys and go home. You have to show up and keep showing up until you get what you want. The biggest problem when people are wondering about their career – whether it’s staying with one they have or trying to find something better – is that they often settle for less when they could have more. If only they would fight.
They go for a job interview and when they’re offered a salary, they don’t ask for more or for a sign on bonus. They accept what’s presented to them without a fight. In all areas of your life, when you’re in a fight, you can expect some blow back.
It’s just the nature of being alive. But the key to winning your fight is to take the hits. You might get knocked down and that’s okay. The key to winning your particular fight is to get back up again and again until you’re the champion you were always intended to be.