Show others that they matter to you
There is something special about feeling needed by friends and family or just being of importance to someone. These feelings help you to build your self-confidence and fortify your happiness. They can lead you to the understanding of where you fit in “the big picture,” giving your life meaning. You can show others how to feel this way, as well, by showing them that they matter to you. Here are 10 ways you can show others that they truly matter to you:
1 – Give them a hug.
Ah, hugs, those simple embraces may be all someone needs to feel healing power and your appreciation for them. Hugging also creates a connection between you and others and a sense of safety, important in any stage of your life.
2 – Actively listen with your whole body, not just your ears.
Pay attention to your body language when you are listening to someone close, to show them that how they feel is important to you. When you speak face to face, maintain eye contact. If the topic is positive or light, a smile is helpful, too.
3 – Celebrate their successes with them.
When you acknowledge someone’s accomplishments, it will boost their sense of self-esteem, and allow them to feel more important. When a friend achieves something, they have worked diligently for, celebrate it with them and recognize their efforts. Celebrating others’ successes also creates a healthy, positive environment that is beneficial to all involved.
4 – Make the time for private conversations with just the two of you.
Making time in your day for one-on-one interactions truly shows that they matter to you. You dedicate them individualized attention, allowing them to understand they are a priority in your eyes.
These private one-on-ones could include:
- Going for a walk in nature together
- Scheduling a coffee or dinner together
- Just having a private, uninterrupted conversation
Focused time like this will allow you to form deeper connections. It also makes the other person feel important, valued, and respected.
5 – Let them know that you believe in them
When you believe in other people, encourage them to carry that belief themselves. This helps them to envision future successes, stretch their thinking and throw open the door to their own potential. Positive words used will infect others with enthusiasm and energy. Avoid cynical words, which suck their energy and plague them with less belief in themselves.
6 – Offer them hope
At each moment of every day, you can either make the world better or worse. Your thoughts spread out and are contagious, so you want them to be positive. You have it in you to help lift others up or bring them down. Interactions with others should provide a spark of hope and encouragement, for a better day or possibly a better life.
7 – Send them motivational quotes.
Passing on words of motivation can refresh others’ perspectives on their situations. Each person will interpret experiences and information in their own way. Sending positive, encouraging quotes helps to establish positivity and connectedness.
8 – Respect their space when they need it.
Respect others’ need for space when it occurs. If someone you know and feel close to is going through a trying life event or a very busy time, maintaining healthy boundaries can let them know that their feelings are important to you.
9 – Let them know what you have learned from them.
When you tell your family, friends, or co-workers what you have learned from them, it validates them. This could include skills like:
- Active listening
- Cooking
- Being a true friend
Caring about the others
Letting people know what they have taught us tells them that we have heard them, and we place importance on what they say.
10 – Send them snail mail cards or letters.
With everything being sent electronically today, sending your friends snail mail letters or cards can show them your appreciation and love in what is now a rather unique way. You can send greeting cards that are blank inside and fill them with your own words or send a handmade postcard or everyday card. It only takes a few words to let people know that they matter to you.
The Takeway
There’s no time like now to show others that they matter to you. Even though you may be in touch with them frequently through email, etc., they will appreciate you reminding them that you are there for them physically, as well. Take a little time and show others just how much they mean to you.
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